Letting Go: Ridding Your Mind of Unwanted Memories May Set You Free
Have you seen “Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind”? The flick in which Kate Winslet and Jim Carrey have their memories of one another erased after being ravaged by a love gone sour? Yeah… you probably have, and if so, you’ve probably thought that their “solution” was frightful and intrusive. Admit it though - there have definitely been times you’ve wished that technology was real.
Truth is, we all have a few moments, relationships and decisions we’d like to banish from our mind so we can move on. Turns out the technology might exist, and you have easy access to it whenever you want… it’s your brain.
The lead feature in January's Scientific American details recent studies that illustrate how the ability to ‘willfully forget’ can result in a healthier brain, and a healthier person. The results thus far have shown that freedom from older, troublesome or useless memories allows the brain to have better recall with new, positive, relevant ones. In essence, there’s much less clutter.
The truth is, this is something that’s been practiced in modalities of energy healing forever. Often dismissed as quack psychology, there is real benefit to be derived from these alternative modes of healing and thinking that urge us to practice a degree of control over negative thoughts. EFT, NLP, the positive affirmations of Louise Hay… these are methods that when practiced with dedication often produce healthier people.
Of course, there’s a fine line to walk between forgetting memories and repressing them; the latter approach may be helpful in the short term, but often - at least as I’ve seen and experienced it, time and time again - those same memories come back to bite you in the ass, often causing more damage upon their return than they ever did in the first place.
So does this mean that you can forget that lame boyfriend who never treated you good enough, or that girl who got away? Maybe not exactly, but the wounds that they inflicted, the painful moments and memories that haunt you, they don’t have the power over you that you might think they do.
Check out the piece if you’re so inclined: “Forgetting is Key to a Healthy Mind.” It is a bit of wordy read, so if you need something to help you through it, I’ve attached James Brown’s joint “Mind Power” as a soundtrack.